If you struggle with being assertive and knowing how to communicate effectively, you’re not alone — it’s a problem faced by many. In this excerpt from her audiobook, psychologist Dr. Julie De Azevedo Hanks encourages you to examine the way you assert yourself at work and at home, sharing strategies for getting your message across clearly and confidently. Practicing self-compassion allows you to be aware, to tune in, to be mindful of your experiences, and to provide comfort and self-nurturing when you need it. According to psychotherapist Dr. Julie de Azevedo Hanks, author of the popular audiobook “The Assertiveness Guide for Women,” neglecting self-compassion is a mistake that many of us make; but, without self-love, we won’t be able to realize our full potential as human beings. We all know the gnawing feeling of needing to have a difficult conversation with someone. While the conversation could improve things in the long term, in the short term our fear can win out and cause us to avoid it. The good news is that there are simple skills that can help us learn how to have difficult conversations. Today we’re sharing an excerpt from the audiobook “The Assertiveness Guide for Women: How to Communicate Your Needs, Set Healthy Boundaries, and Transform Your Relationships” by psychotherapist Julie de Azevedo Hanks. If you’ve ever been bothered by a friend, coworker, child or partner, but found yourself uncertain about how to have a difficult conversation with that person, you’ll appreciate these concrete steps. You'll learn how to create a situation where your message, intent, mind, and heart will be heard and respected by another person. You can feel comfortable having even the most challenging conversations!